The topic of college roommates looms large for many students and parents. It is common for students to feel anxious as many anticipate sharing a living space with a stranger for the first time. But with careful preparation, attention to communication, and an openness to new experiences, students can create a positive relationship with their roommate. In this episode, Vicki and Lynn discuss the important skills required and lessons learned from the work of building this important relationship.
Both students and their parents are often very nervous about how the roommate relationship will develop. Living with another person – often a stranger – isn’t easy. Parents can help students prepare for this important relationship by discussing some of the potential issues as well as how to better communicate.
Vicki talked about a book that has helpful suggestions about negotiation. If you’d like to do some further reading, check out Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Robert Fisher, William L. Ury, and Bruce Patton.
If you’d like to learn a little more about compromising vs. collaborating, here is an article Vicki wrote for Collegiate Parent that explains more: How to Help Your College Student Learn to Manage Conflict.
Lynn talked about a funny scene in the old movie Harold and Maude (1971) about a mom filling out the son’s informational form for college. If you’re looking for something to watch, the movie is available on Amazon Prime, Google Play or other outlets where you like to find your movies.
And here are a few additional articles on College Parent Central that may help your student as they think about living with a new roommate:
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