We’ve written several posts about college parents as “helicopter parents” and about college parents’ important role of coaching from the sidelines. We still have an important job, but not the same role we had when our student was in high school. We’ve also used the analogy of teaching our teenager to drive a car. We need to get out of the driver’s seat and allow them to get behind the wheel. It’s a disconcerting, and sometimes terrifying, proposition for many parents.
We think this is good advice for parents. We need to assume a new role. However, this only works if your student is ready to take control. One of our tasks as parent is to help our student get ready for college. (Think of it as Driver’s Ed!) This means more than helping to pack the boxes and making trips to the home store for dorm furnishings. College readiness requires academic readiness, but also “life” readiness. Your student needs to be ready to take control when the time comes. You will feel better, and so will they.