Helping Your College Student Increase His Chances of Success

As a college parent, we want nothing more than for our college student to be successful in college.  Although that success may look slightly different to different parents and families, important measures of success for most of us are certainly competence, grades, happiness, and a job after college.

Students are responsible for their own behavior in college.  As parents, we have raised them and prepared them for their college journey.  We continue to be involved and to support our student, but she must make her own decisions and take responsibility for her actions.  Our role, as a college parent, changes.  However, as the coach on the sidelines, we can do much to suggest options to our student which will help guide her toward her success.  Some students may need more reminding and guiding than others, but students will make choices which will determine their path.

We’d like to suggest some choices and actions that you can encourage in your college student to help him increase his chances of a successful college experience.  Of course, there is no magic bullet, and sometimes even those students who make all of the right choices may hit rough patches, but these suggestions may help to guide your student toward success and increased confidence.  Encourage your student to consider some of the following.

  • Find a good time management system.  Possibly one of the most important secrets to success in college is good time management.  Students spend much less time in class at the college level and are expected to do more coursework outside of the classroom. They are faced with much more unstructured time. Students should also participate in campus activities (both academic and co-curricular) and many students today also have a job.  Finding a systematic way to juggle all of his responsibilities, plan ahead, and organize his time will be one of the most important skills that your college student can accomplish.
  • Go to class.  Showing up really is half of the battle.  Students not only learn the material by going to class, they learn about their professor and what she considers important, learn from other students in the class, and send a message to the professor that they care.
  • Know your way around campus.  Encourage your student to find out what resources are available on campus and to take advantage of those resources.  Encourage him to use a tutoring or academic support center, talk to his advisor, take advantage of all library resources and library research assistance, talk to a counselor if that would be helpful, and take full advantage of all that the college has to offer.
  • Seek help early.  If your student is finding herself in difficulty – either academically, socially or emotionally, encourage her to get help early rather than waiting.  Find a tutor or study group, talk to the professor, talk with the RA or Residence Director, visit the health or counseling center.  Dealing with a problem early can prevent larger problems later.
  • Take some classes that you love.  Almost all colleges have “all college” or general education requirements.  There will also be requirements for your student’s major.  There may be requirements for a minor if your student has one.  Students can feel overwhelmed and focus only on what needs to be done.  This is important and good.  However, encourage your student to also do something that she loves and to do it early in her college career. Too many students think they need to wait until junior or senior year to take a “fun” class and by then are burned out.   Encourage her to make room in her schedule for that dance class, art class, sports class, or whatever else might feed her passion for something.  This will help her keep balance and give her an important outlet.
  • Do hard things.  Encourage your student to stretch himself and try new and difficult things.  Success often comes best through meeting difficult challenges.  Remind your student that failure (not necessarily failing a course, but even failing a course) is one of the best learning tools.  If your student never tries anything difficult because he is afraid of failure or hard work, then his world will never expand.  Remind him to welcome challenges.
  • Stay healthy.  Remind your student that she will function best when she has had a reasonable amount of rest, exercise and relatively healthy food.  Yes, your college student may manage on few hours of sleep, days of no exercise, and days of junk food, but remind him to at least try to sleep, exercise and eat in balance some of the time – especially during stressful times like exam time.
  • Take some small risks.  Encourage your student to take small steps toward larger goals.  Ask a question in a class where the instructor intimidates her.  Talk to a difficult professor after class.  Volunteer to work on a committee.  Join an unusual club.  Run for office in a club or student government.  Stretch the limits of her comfort zone.
  • Avoid nay-sayers.  There will always be negative people.  Your student does not need to spend time with them.  They will color his experience.  Encourage him to avoid people who are negative about almost everything.
  • Engage in positive self-talk.  Your student can coach himself in the direction of success.  A good coach guides his athlete not only by telling him what he needs to improve, but also what he is doing well.  Remind your student to consider what is going well, congratulate himself for decisions well made, recognize his strengths, and cheer himself on.
  • Talk to an upperclassman for advice.  There is a lot of wisdom gained through experience on college campuses.  Encourage your student to find one or two upperclass students who are role models for her and to gather some of their wisdom.
  • Tutor someone.  If your student has a subject in which she is skilled, she can tutor someone struggling with that subject.  Becoming a tutor might earn your student a bit of money, but more importantly it will increase her confidence and solidify her knowledge of the subject.  Students who tutor others learn their college material better.
  • Gain some real world experience.  Participate in community service projects, internships, conferences, study abroad, or any other experiences that give the student the opportunity to get off campus and try his new knowledge in the real world.

None of these suggestions will work magic for your student.  Not every student will be able to take advantage of all of them.  But thinking carefully about choices, and making some wise decisions on a daily basis, can increase your student’s chances for success and increase his confidence.  Don’t forget, as a college parent and coach on the sidelines, to congratulate your student often for the wise decisions she does make.

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2 thoughts on “Helping Your College Student Increase His Chances of Success

  1. There are some great points about how to be successful in college. In my experience, time management and organization are two key factors in having success in college. My best grades while in school weren’t attributed to locking myself in the library and studying for days on end. But instead were due to my organizational and time management efforts. There are some companies out there nowadays, like MyEdu, that provide students with tools and applications to help with time management and organization, among other things. I wish I had used sites like that more while in school. Students have all of these tools at their fingertips to really get the best out of their educational experience in college. Why not use them?

  2. Sure we have raised our children in a responsible manner and hopes that they will carry the values and ethics we have taught them into their adult lives, however, just because you have packed them in the car and moved them into college, doesn’t necessarily mean you should just let them go, take a vested interest in their education, be aware of what is going on in their college career, ask questions, show them that you care about how things are going. Continue to support and guide them just as you did when they were living under your roof.

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