Posts from — June 2011
It’s been a long journey getting your almost college student ready for freshman year. You’ve helped and supported through the testing, the college visits, the applications, the acceptance or rejection letters, and the final decision. But you know that your work isn’t done. The summer before that first year of college is a busy and stressful one – for everyone involved. Your student may be focused and organized, or he may seem uninterested in the transition about to take place.
As a college parent, you know that you are going to need to step back and let your student take control of her college experience. Yet, you want her to start of on the right foot – excited and prepared. As always, the key is helping your student prepare. Encourage your student to take the lead, and resist the temptation to handle things yourself. This is your student’s opportunity to become increasingly self-sufficient.
We’ve gathered here some previous posts about things you can do this summer to help the transition go well. Think about how you and your college student can work together to prepare for those first steps during the freshman year.
June 30, 2011 No Comments
Being a college parent is hard work. Sometimes it is difficult work because of the amount of things that you need to do and because you need to be very involved. But sometimes, being a college parent is hard work because of what you need not to do. Sometimes the hard work is standing back and allowing your student to take control of the experience.
But just because you need to stand back and let your student be in the driver’s seat, doesn’t mean that you, as a college parent, are not involved. Although you may be on the sidelines of this experience, you can still be present, needed, and very much part of the fabric of the experience. The involvement may, however, be more subtle (and therefore, in some ways more difficult) than you anticipated.
We’d like to suggest five important jobs for college parents. You may not do all jobs equally well. You may not need to tackle some jobs as much as others. You may need to experiment and practice some skills before you become proficient at them. But we’d like to suggest that you have five important tasks as a college parent.
June 26, 2011 No Comments
As you send your high school student off for her freshman year of college and you worry about how she will manage, it is almost impossible to imagine the college senior that you will have in four years. It may help to remind yourself of the child who began high school four years earlier. Could you have imagined then, what she would be like four years later as she graduated from high school?
Students mature during their college years, not only because times passes, but because they experience many different influences and demands. We’ve discussed in many posts about the importance of helping your college student learn to advocate for himself and take responsibility for his actions and decisions. It is not always an easy thing for us, as parents, to remember the important long-term goals over the immediate impulse to “fix” any problems.
June 19, 2011 No Comments
Your college student will probably run the gamut of emotions during her time in college. She may even run through many emotions in a single day. As a college parent, you may hear about your student’s highs and lows, or you may be unaware of some of the dips and turns. It is possible that you may feel that your student needs help coping, and you may find yourself offering advice or recommending that he get some help from someone such as a counselor. For most students, however, handling emotional swings becomes part of the college experience.
How well your student handles his emotions may be one indicator, however, of his potential success in college. Some research in Emotional Intelligence suggests that students who recognize and manage their moods, feelings and attitudes well may do better academically. The more closely your student is in touch with his emotions, the better he may do.
June 12, 2011 No Comments
College students (or soon-to-be college students) are often in yet another transition in June. Those students already in college may have finished their formal academic year in May. By June they have settled in to a summer term, a summer job or internship, or may be diligently looking for that first post-college job. For high school students, June may bring graduation and the realization that college is just around the corner. For parents, the summer months may be an interesting time of having a student return home after the year away or helping their student prepare to leave home for college. There is something happening for almost everyone.
Last June we did a roundup of posts from last year that may be helpful to both you and your student at this point in the academic year. You may view our roundup for last June here. It contains many helpful articles. This post contains posts we’ve written since last June that may be helpful at this particular time of year.
June 4, 2011 No Comments