Book Review: Say This NOT That to Your Professor

From time to time, we like to review some of the books available for parents of college students.  There is a wealth of literature available to help parents cope with the transition to college and the changes that occur throughout the college years.  We’ve created lists of recommended reading, and there is something for everyone.  See our Resources and Tools page for suggestions.

This book is one that we recommend that parents give to their students as they head off to college.  Although it would be a nice idea for parents to read Say This, NOT That to Your Professor as well, it is intended to give advice to students about how to make the most of their communication skills to enhance their relationships with faculty members and to enhance their chances of success.

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13 Active Ways to Be a Better Roommate

The roommate issue looms large for most entering college students.  Students and their parents worry about who their roommate will be, whether they will like each other, whether they will get along.  Most students heading off to college have never shared a bedroom with someone else.  When that bedroom is also your living room, kitchen, den and recreation room, the prospect of sharing that small space with someone else causes many students concern.

Much has been written to help students get along with roommates.  We’ve written earlier posts on how roommates are matched, helping your student prepare for living with a roommate, and even the value of some conflict with a roommate.  Much of what is written, however, focuses on what to expect from a roommate and how to react to potential problems.

We’d like to suggest a more proactive approach.  Rather than focusing on how to deal with a roommate, we’d like to suggest 13 things your student can do to make sure that she is being the best possible roommate herself. Rather than thinking about what to expect from a roommate, help her think about what to expect from herself.  Discussing some of these things with your student before she heads to college may help her know how to take action to make her living situation better.

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The Summer Before College: A Time for Conversations, Decisions, Questions and Skills

It is the summer before your student heads off for freshman year of college.  The applications were done months ago, the long wait for acceptance is over, the final decision made, the deposit paid.  You know this is an important time, but beyond all of the shopping for extra-long sheets and storage containers and writing that tuition check, you feel there is something you should be doing, but you’re not sure what.  Your student is busy saying the long goodbye to high school friends, connecting with new friends on Facebook, and conspicuously not packing yet, but you’re at a loss.

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. You’ve been focused for so long on this moment, and yet it’s not clear what you need to be doing.  Perhaps it’s not so much what you are doing as the importance of your job of talking to your student to help him make some important summer decisions.  There are a lot of topics to be covered, but hopefully, these are continuations of conversations you’ve already started.

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