Posts from — February 2017
From time to time, we like to review some of the books available for parents of college students. There is a wealth of literature available to help parents cope with the transition to college and the changes that occur throughout the college years. We’ve offered some lists of recommended reading, and there is something for everyone. Visit our Resources page for suggestions of important books for college parents and their students.
Out to Sea: A Parents’ Survival Guide to the Freshman Voyage by Kelly Radi is an easy-to-read, helpful book for parents about to send their child off to college. Radi uses the metaphor of a ship setting sail to help parents understand, and become more comfortable with, the process of helping their child start out, and succeed, in college.
Part One of the book, Preparing to Set Sail, is a good reminder to parents that any good voyage requires preparation. We like the practical advice that Radi provides, as well as her ability to help parents grapple with defining their own role. The “helicopter parent” quiz in chapter 2 is particularly telling, and takes this often overused term and defines what it looks like in students’ and parents’ real life. Parents can find out early how much of their own work they may need to do to help launch their child. What follows is great practical advice on everything from money discussions, what to pack, and how to think about getting around campus.
February 23, 2017 No Comments
Values, honesty, kindness, caring, work ethic. We spend much of our children’s lives teaching them – overtly or through example – about the values that we hold dear. It’s part of what raising a child is all about.
So by the time that our students reach college, we may assume that we’re done. We’ve put in the work over the years to teach/show them what we believe and now they’re on their own to put it into practice. If they haven’t gotten it by now, there’s no use doing more talking.
While it’s true that we’ve been teaching and modeling values all through our children’s lives, it’s important – as your student heads to college – that you talk with him about academic integrity. It matters, and your student’s college career could depend on a solid understanding of what it is, why it matters, and how to prevent getting into “integrity trouble.”
Where do you start?
February 13, 2017 No Comments
Social media have become part of the fabric of life for most of our high school and college students. But for many parents, discussing social media with our students is not something we really want to do. After all, there are so many options – Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Snapchat, Yik Yak, LinkedIn, Periscope, and something new seemingly every week. How do we keep up? Where do we start? What do we say?
Why do we even need to have the conversation?
There are lots of reasons to talk to your student about his use of social media, and many parents have already had some of these important conversations when their students were younger. We talk about the amount of time spent, we talk about being careful about what gets posted, we talk about cyberbullying, and we talk about separating fact from fiction. At least we should. But it isn’t always easy, and it isn’t always comfortable. In fact, it seems to get less comfortable as our students get older.
Two important topics to discuss – at least for a start – are the amount of time spent on social media and the importance of carefully considering what your student posts.
February 6, 2017 No Comments