December 2014 – College Parent Central

The College Parent Central Year in Review: Articles of Interest for 2014

March 25, 2017December 29, 2014 by Vicki Nelson

It’s that time of year when we can’t quite decide whether to look backwards at the year that is just ending or to look ahead at the year about to begin. We probably need to do a little bit of both. Looking back gives us some perspective to look ahead, and think about our goals and plans for the new year based on where we’ve come.

So before we look ahead, make plans, make resolutions we probably won’t keep, or set goals for 2015, we’d like to take a moment to look back at some of our articles for 2014. These are the articles that, to us, speak most about the essence of the college parent role and/or speak to those ideas and issues that most affect the way we relate to our college sons and daughters.

We invite you to take a few minutes to review these articles, and to think about how you view your role. How have you grown into the role over the past year? Where might you and your college student go next year?

When Disappointment Comes for Your Student

March 18, 2020December 18, 2014 by Vicki Nelson

Your student will experience disappointment. It is inevitable. There are the little disappointments that occur all through childhood, of course, but then there are bigger disappointments. It may be failure to make the team or get the part in the play, a grade that is less than desired, loss of a scholarship, college rejection or deferral, or low GPA. It might happen in high school or it might happen during college.

However, the important question is not whether your student will experience disappointment (they will) or even when, but what will you and your student do when the inevitable happens?

Your student may look to you, even without realizing that they are doing so, to model how they should handle this disappointment. Whether it is an admission rejection or academic probation, it is important to see this as an opportunity to model your attitude and behavior for your student. How you respond may affect how they react to the situation. Remember when your student was little and fell down? Often, the first thing they did was look to you. If you smiled and laughed, they often got up and were fine. If you were alarmed and fearful, tears came.

“I Don’t Want to Go Back!” Helping Your Student Decide Whether to Return to School

January 2, 2024December 15, 2014 by Vicki Nelson

In our previous post, we discussed what to do when your student comes home mid-year and says she doesn’t want to return to school. First you listen, then you talk about possible reasons and look at options. Now you need to help your student decide what to do.

Perhaps you’ve seen it coming over the course of the semester, or perhaps it has taken you by surprise. But your student came home for what you thought was going to be a few weeks for winter break and has announced that she doesn’t want to return to school when break is over. No one expected this when you headed to school for Move-in Day.

After you’ve listened to your student talk about her reasons — and possibly had to help her determine those reasons, after you’ve helped her think about her possible options, you may need to help her process those options to make a decision. Of course, you might insist — either that she return to school or stay home — but the decision really must be your student’s or she will not be committed to making it work.

There is no one answer that is the best for all students. Your student will need to think carefully about her reasons for not wanting to return and her ability to face whatever is making her unhappy or preventing her success. As you help your student look at her situation from several angles, here are a few thoughts to share.

“I Don’t Want to Go Back.” When Your College Freshman Wants to Quit

January 19, 2021December 11, 2014 by Vicki Nelson

Perhaps you’ve seen it coming over the course of the semester, or perhaps it has taken you by surprise. Your student came home for what you thought was going to be a few weeks for winter break and announced that they don’t want to return to school when break is over. No one expected this when you headed to school for Move-in Day.

Dissatisfaction with the college experience at the end of the first semester is not uncommon. Several national studies suggest that as many as one third of college students do not return for their sophomore year of college, but there is little data regarding how many of those students leave at the midpoint of their first year. However, both college personnel and first year students know that there are many students who will not be back for second semester.

So you are faced with a dilemma. Your student says they don’t want to return to school. What do you do?

Beyond Admissions: Preparing Your High School Senior for College

June 22, 2022December 8, 2014 by Vicki Nelson

As the parent of a high school senior (or junior) you may be doing everything that you can to help your student make decisions and get into the college of their choice. This is an important time and there certainly are a lot of things to do. As your student works on the college admissions process, you may be drawn into the whirlwind along with your student.

This is a good time to stop and think about how the college admissions process has involved you either directly or indirectly.

Your student is

preparing for PSAT, SAT and/or ACT exams,
making sure that extracurricular activities and community service are documented,
keeping grades strong,
cleaning up social media accounts,
attending college information workshops,
completing financial aid applications,
compiling lists of schools,
attending college fairs,
working with guidance counselors,
making college visits,
getting all paperwork organized,
writing essays,
sending out applications,
and finally — waiting impatiently for admissions decisions.

It’s no wonder students — and parents — feel overwhelmed. Just thinking about the process can be exhausting. And once those applications are in the mail, you may feel as though the real work of senior year is done. Now you just wait — at least until letters arrive and new, and final, decisions need to be made.

How Can Parents Help College Students as the Semester Ends?

November 9, 2019December 4, 2014 by Vicki Nelson

The end of the semester is almost here and your college student may be feeling stressed. You wish you could help. Or perhaps it’s nearing the end of the semester and your college student is just a bit too relaxed about the urgency of the work that still needs to be done. You wish you could light a little fire under them.

In either of these cases, as a college parent, you may wonder what you can do to help your student cope with all that the end of a semester involves. The truth is that you are limited in what you can do to help — but that doesn’t mean that you can’t help in several important ways.

Once again — brush up those listening skills

There are many important points in our students’ lives when our listening skills may be the most important tool that we have in our toolkit. The end of the semester may be one of them. You may hear more from your student at this point, especially if they are feeling stressed. Then again, you may not hear as much from your student — either because they are too busy to talk or write or because they are stressed and don’t want or know how to share those feelings.

Holiday Gifts for Your College Student — 2014

March 16, 2017December 1, 2014 by Vicki Nelson

Sometimes, coming up with just the right holiday gift for you college student may be difficult. You haven’t seen her in a while and you may not be as sure what she needs. Of course, you can almost never go wrong with a gift card, but if you’re looking for something a little more specific, we have a few suggestions. Use these ideas to get your own creativity started.

The College Parent Central Year in Review: Articles of Interest for 2014

When Disappointment Comes for Your Student

“I Don’t Want to Go Back!” Helping Your Student Decide Whether to Return to School

“I Don’t Want to Go Back.” When Your College Freshman Wants to Quit

Beyond Admissions: Preparing Your High School Senior for College

How Can Parents Help College Students as the Semester Ends?

Holiday Gifts for Your College Student — 2014

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