Your soon-to-be college student is busy getting ready to head off to college. You want to make sure that both you and she have all of the information that you both need, and you want to help her prepare. So you ask her to share some pieces of information with you – so you can help and give advice.
This makes sense and sounds like a good idea. And sharing some information is important. But there’s a line between helpful and intrusive. Here are three pieces of information that may cross the line – for different reasons.
The roommate information form
If your student will be living on campus, she will probably have a roommate. Colleges work hard to make roommate matches that make sense and have a good chance to work out. In order to do this, the college will ask your student to fill out a matching profile, lifestyle questionnaire, or roommate profile. This form will ask about lifestyle preferences that may make a difference in a living situation such as: Are you an early riser or late-to-bed person? Do you study with music or in silence? What type of music do you prefer? Are you generally messy or a neat-freak? Do you smoke? What are your interests? Do you prefer to sleep in the dark or with a light on? Window open or closed?
Why sharing this information isn’t a good idea